Tell me, where did your mind just go? *wink* Well, my shades are considerably more boring.
For years I was frustrated at every political discussion I had. I was frustrated about every social issue discussion too. Oh, and schools? Yep, frustrated too.
The process would look like this:
Other Person: All cows should be blue. Period.
Me: But not all cows are blue.
OP: But they should be. Blue or yellow.
Me: But the truth is that some are green.
OP: But cows have historically been blue and yellow and they shouldn't change.
Me: But there are so many reasons why cows aren't always blue and yellow and we need to consider those.
OP: Nope. Blue or yellow.
Me: grrrrrrrr (leaves conversation)
When my counselor asked me to describe myself the other day I said that I am the greyest person I know. She laughed and asked me to explain. I told her that for any statement she gives me, I'll likely to find several different points that would both support and discount it. I told her that I usually cheer for the team who is losing, even if I switch sides every inning. I spend a lot of time explaining my reasoning behind everything and I often get frustrated.
Her response was that it was all awesome. And then I laughed.
Most people in this world have a very black/white outlook on life. They are very absolute about what they think and believe. Me? I'm the opposite. She said that in her practice, she spends a lot of time with those black/white people trying to get them to understand the grey areas as those people have a hard time seeing that there could be any other answer, other than A or B.
But I explained that it frustrated me when I talked with others that they couldn't see the things that I see. She acknowledged this and said that while hard, it must make me a pretty understanding person. When I thought about it, I agreed. (toots my own horn...)
What I left with was a new understanding about not only myself, but those around me. I feel a lot like the person who's always saying, "But, what about this?" And while that may be true, I also help people think about things that they had not or could not even think about in many situations. Maybe that's why I like being a probation/parole agent so much?