Remember how I said that Pete wouldn't reach his goal of losing 50 pounds by the surgery? Well, he's still trying. I have to give him credit, because when he puts his mind to losing weight, he does it.
Want to know something interesting though? I realized Monday that he has the same fears, irritations, upsets, worries and thoughts that I do about the process. It was a major realization for me. We were on the way to the gym and he was upset because he was up from his weight the day before. I kept telling him that he needed to give himself credit for what he has done. He needed to realize that his body was telling him something with his weight. He needed to not focus on the weight, but the trend that his body has. That he's doing the best he can and it will come off.
Then I had my "Ah-Ha!" moment. I asked him, 'Why is is so hard to hear what I'm saying when you say the same things to me when I complain about my process?" He sat silent for a long time thinking about it. In that moment I think we both realized that we have different paths in our journey, but similar issues. In that moment I realized that I need to take a step back when I get frustrated and really listen to the people around me and what they are saying.
As for Pete - today is his pre-op physical. He's not letting up on trying to lose weight and continuing at the gym. We were at the grocery store this weekend (it doesn't often happen that we're there together) and spent a short amount of time looking for things for him to eat. Then we agreed that we'd have to have his list of approved items and come back.